May 28, 2009

On Rev Mel Show June 8, 8PM PST

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

This is to let you know that Emily E. Prior is going to be the featured guest on the Reverend Mel Live Show on http://www.talkingsexradio.com on Monday, June 8 at 8 p.m. PST. The topic for the evening will be how BDSM and other alternate sexualities are taught today at the university level.

For a very long time the only context in which alternate sexuality was taught in colleges and universities was as a form of abnormal psychology. Alternate sexualities such as homosexuality, polyamory, fetishism and SM were considered to be and taught as deviant and pathological. With the advent of new research and the changing of classifications in the DSM Manual, most alternate sexualities are taught differently today, from a fresh approach that seeks to understand rather than judge; that seeks to enlighten rather than prejudice the minds of future therapists and investigators.

Drawing from her personal experiences in the academic field, Ms. Prior will discuss how things have changed for the better in the university setting, and what more change still needs to take place.

We invite everyone to listen to the program and call in with questions and comments!

Emily Prior is Founder and Executive Director of The Center for Positive Sexuality. She holds a degree in Psychology, with studies in Human Sexuality that have taken her from The Center for Sex & Gender Research at Cal State Northridge to The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender & Reproduction located at Indiana University. Most recently, she presented a paper on behalf of the Community-Academic Consortium for Research of Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) at the most recent conference of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) in Phoenix.

For more information, please contact: emily@positivesexuality.org .

The Center for Positive Sexuality is a non-profit organization dedicated to the idea that people not only need to be educated about sex and sexuality, but that everyone needs to be able to see these topics portrayed from a positive, healthy perspective. Sex and sexuality are normal, natural parts of being human and should be explored as a part of everyone’s development. Our website is: http://www.positivesexuality.org .

May 28, 2009

“MARRY US OR JAIL US” DARE

SAME-SEX MARRIAGE EQUALITY ACTIVISTS
LGBTQ Protestors Take Up Civil Disobedience
and Risk Arrest

Los Angeles, California, May 26, 2009 –An estimated 500 people (mostly Latinos, many of them high school youth) participated in a passionate protest organized by Latinos for Equality Alliance of East Los Angeles reacting to this morning’s announcement of the California Supreme Court’s decision to allow Proposition 8 (the gay marriage equality referendum) to stand as law. Eight LGBTQ activists, taking their fight for Same-Sex Marriage Equality to a new tactical level, entered the County Recorder Marriage License office to request marriage licenses and, when they were denied, they blocked heterosexual applicants from obtaining licenses and shut down the building refusing to leave.

Using non-violent resistance tactics of civil obedience the LGBTQ community has not used in recent years, Jeanne Cordova and her partner Lynn Harris Ballen, Carlos Alvarez and his partner Orlando Prado, Susan Forrest and her partner Talia Bettcher, as well as activists Professor Jacob Hale and Tony Espinosa were prepared to be arrested.

These LGBTQ demonstrators (all members of the “Marry Us Or Jail Us” Action Alliance (MUJU)) occupied the building for three hours. When it became clear that the County Sheriffs were prepared to wait them out rather than arrest them, they allowed themselves to be escorted off the property. Having made their point, they pledged their commitment to Same-Sex Marriage Equality and to civil disobedience.

Lynn Harris Ballen, said, “We’ve faced numerous discriminations as a couple. When Jeanne had colon cancer last year, I had to fight with hospital personnel to be treated as next of kin. We’ve been together for twenty years and simply want the same rights and protections as any other committed couple in California.”

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This is copied by permission from the originator.

May 26, 2009

Courageous Outreach to Academics and Therapists Successful

I recently attended the 41st Annual AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) Conference. I had the privilege of presenting at the conference, which I greatly enjoyed. More importantly I was a small part of an outreach that brought the SM community and the academic research community, who have in the past been seen as at odds to one another, together. Having the perspective of one who resides in both camps, it was quite amazing to hear commentary from each organization about this outreach and what it could mean to not only the future of sex education and therapy, but to the future of those of us who feel we live on the fringes of society because of our sexual identities.

APEX, the Arizona Power Exchange, opened its doors to those attending the AASECT Conference. As far as I know, this has never been done quite like this before. APEX had the courage to reach out to a community that many BDSM lifestylers are cautious and even afraid of. And because of this magnanimous gesture, another 150 educators and therapists have returned to their universities and practices with more knowledge about what BDSM is and can be. Even more importantly, those educators and therapists can now put a real face and personality behind the rhetoric and theory, hopefully allowing them to be more compassionate, knowledgeable, and understanding when they come across a client who defines her or himself as a BDSM practitioner.

Master Reagan and his many volunteers held an Open House where members from the AASECT conference were introduced to some of the realities of BDSM. Along with a tour of their beautiful dungeon, Masters Bert, Harold, Reagan, and Karen Torry Greene MSW, LCSW, KAP spoke about the needs and expectations of the BDSM Communities, mainly that BDSM is not a diagnosis for mental illness and that more research and education needs to take place to dispel this myth.

Along with several volunteers from neighboring BDSM organizations, APEX then provided the audience with a sneak peek into the experience of a play party. For my part, it was quite difficult to watch such beautiful scenes being played and be entirely unable to participate. They chose perfect music and, as the lights dimmed, several scenes took place in the center of the dungeon. From fire play to suspension bondage to corporal spanking and caning to violet wands and floggers, the variety of intimacies explored for the AASECT audience was intriguing, sexy, and for some, disturbing. I found myself quietly explaining what was going on in some of the scenes to a fellow AASECT attendee, as he asked me “What is that?” and “What are they doing?” Audience members seated farther away from the action stood up and craned over those in front to get a better look.

After about twenty minutes, the music and play began to wind down. There was a lot of cuddling, caressing, kissing, and tears as the couples that had been playing began their aftercare. I could see that some of the AASECTers did not expect this level of compassion, intimacy, and love from the players. Some even seemed more uncomfortable experiencing the nuances of aftercare, and I believe that was because it is so intimate and personal, almost too much so for an audience to be present.

As the players came back down to earth, APEX opened its kitchen to the AASECTers. Master Reagan instructed the group that many other lifestylers were in the room as well, wearing name tags that also listed a few kinks each would be willing to discuss with anyone who asked. It wasn’t long before everyone was mingling and talking with one another. Overall, the AASECT group seemed very pleased and honored to have been a part of this very special occasion.

Afterward, when I spoke to some of the AASECT attendees, they were clearly still processing much of what they had experienced. Some folks said they still didn’t get it, but that they attended at all gives me hope that they are trying. Others were exuberant and also mildly frustrated that they didn’t have the chance to play along as well. I even met one woman who, years ago, was not a part of the BDSM community and was even quite against the idea of practicing kink. Now, she’s fully in the community and lifestyle and proudly sports her mark of play and SM interaction.

From APEX and affiliates? They were quite pleased with how things went. I congratulated them on their courage. We can all learn from the willingness of APEX and their affiliates in Phoenix, and hopefully emulate their good deeds.

I hope that this experience and others like it can help bridge the gap between these two communities. In the end, they have the same goals, to educate and enhance the sex lives of consenting adults, to help those who are confused and are looking for a safe outlet for their sexual desires, and ultimately to do no harm.

April 2, 2009

Bondage Sex Helps Couples Bond

My comments are based on this article: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Health–Science/Bondage-sex-helps-couples-bond/articleshow/4341683.cms

Now, I’m in total agreement regarding the title, however I’m not getting the math that the article is using. According to one study, the article cites that an increase in cortisol (a stress hormone) increased with SM play. Wouldn’t that mean that the couple is less bonded? Or, do increased stress hormones somehow increase bonding? I’m not quite getting the science here.

Another study states that there were increased levels of testosterone in the female bottoms after SM play. Not sure how this leads to a conclusion of bonding, but it’s interesting none-the-less.

The article asks that future studies check for orgasm related to play, since current science seems to agree that the experience of orgasm during a sexual encounter leads to increased hormones connected to bonding, at least for women. The wrinkle here is, I believe, that not all SM play leads to orgasm, however I would wonder whether or not that means those folks aren’t feeling “bonded” to their partners. Maybe what is really needed here is Ye Olde Multi-Method research, inccluding not only tests for particular hormones (objective) but also people’s responses regarding how they feel (subjective).

So, although this is a step in the right direction, at least according to this article (which is hardly the full outline of the study I’m sure) I’m not really seeing the connection between bondage and bonding. Unfortunately, for those of us who have experienced it, we can’t just use “Duh!” as scientific evidence.

March 31, 2009

Trans Town Hall Meeting

I attended the Trans Town Hall Meeting in Hollywood last night. There were about 30 folks in attendance, some trans, some allies. It was held at The Village, a part of the LA Gay & Lesbian Center, in the theatre there.
The topic was “Improving Access and Quality of Educational Experiences for Trans Communities,” with a panel of speakers ranging from educators and professors to students. Each had his or her own story about their experiences as a trans person and how that has affected their ability to utilize educational resources (getting into college, financial aid, etc.) and how they were using their experiences to help others. It was agreed that not only do young people (including pre-and elementary school) need to know what opportunities are available for trans folk, but those who are over 25 need resources and opportunities as well. It was also agreed that non-trans folk need training in sensitivity and awareness.
In the Los Angeles area, Cal State LA, Cal State Northridge, and Antioch University all are quite progressive with their various sexuality, LGBT, and Queer studies programs. In fact, one of the panel members was key in arranging a gender-neutral bathroom at Antioch. These universities serve extremely diverse and large populations, and seem to be in the forefront modeling awareness and inclusive campus communities.
A few other interesting notes from the meeting included the idea of compiling a trans history; creating training for faculty at universities and secondary schools; making sure that transgenders are included in the conversion and everyday speak of those who teach (as well as others); helping with microbusiness planning for those wishing to be self-employed; helping with other business and finance planning; finding grants and endowments that would help trans businesses, organizations, and individuals succeed; and being willing to foster a trans youth to help reduce the staggering numbers of those who are living on the streets.
For my part, and the Center for Positive Sexuality, I am putting together a transgender panel that will also go out to the universities and colleges, just like the rest of us. It has been my experience that the only way to open minds is in person. Once there is a name and face to go along with what you think you know about a particular group of people, it’s a lot more difficult to deny them their personhood.

February 18, 2009

Polyamory article

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29239960/

Let me know what you think.

February 8, 2009

Obscenity Ordinance in Georgia

I received an email from a colleague recently about a new “Obscenity Ordinance” which “directly bans  ‘devices used to stimulate the genital organs’ “.  (See – www.coweta.ga – Obscenity Ordinance.)

I am aware that states like Alabama already ban vibrators. You can even have them removed from your luggage if you are passing through an airport there.

I ask Even Ensler’s question “How many deaths have occured due to vibrator use?” These are states where it is easier to get a gun then a vibrator. I don’t wish to get into a debate regarding the issue of gun control because I honestly have some mixed feelings, but vibrator control? Really?!?! Can someone honestly show me some true data from a reliable source that reports female orgasm is lethal, unhealthy, or otherwise needs to be controlled in order to keep individuals and society safe? PLEASE SEND ME THAT DATA!!!!!!!!!

I think it is now our patriotic duty this Valentine’s the send all of our sisters in Alabama, Coweta County, GA, and all other such places tons of vibrators. Anarchy is sure to ensue.

January 27, 2009

Paper Presentation at AASECT

I’ll be presenting at the 41st Annual AASECT Conference May 14-17 in Phoenix, AZ. I’ll post more details later, but all kudos, monetary contributions, etc. will be welcomed!

January 19, 2009

From AP: Future of abstinence-only funding is in limbo

Bookmarks Print By DAVID CRARY, AP National Writer David Crary, Ap National Writer – Sun Jan 18, 9:20 pm ET AP – In this June 7, 2007, file photo Rep. Louise Slaughter, D-N.Y. speaks about the Prevention First Act, … NEW YORK – With the exit of the Bush administration, critics of abstinence-only sex education will be making an aggressive push to cut off federal funding for what they consider an ineffective, sometimes harmful program.

How quickly and completely they reach their goal is uncertain, however, as conservative supporters of abstinence education lobby Congress and President-elect Barack Obama to preserve at least some of the funding, which now totals $176 million a year.

And even if federal funding is halted, some states — such as Georgia — are determined to keep abstinence programs going on their own, ensuring that this front in the culture wars will remain active.

Obama is considered an advocate of comprehensive sex education, which — unlike abstinence-only curriculum — includes advice to young people about using contraceptives if they do engage in sexual activity. However, Obama spokesman Tommy Vietor declined to elaborate on what the new president would propose in his own budget plan.

Cecile Richards, president of the Planned Parenthood Federation of American, depicted the federal abstinence-only program as “an utter failure that has wasted more than $1.5 billion” over the past decade. Like other critics, she noted that several major studies — including a federally funded review — have found no evidence that the abstinence-only approach works in deterring teen sex.

“Talking with Obama, he totally understands the need for young people to have comprehensive sex education — they need information that protects their health,” Richards said. “I hope that will be the position of the administration, but when Congress gets involved, sometimes things get more complicated.”

Even after Democrats took control of Congress in the 2006 elections, liberals lacked the votes to end abstinence-only funding, and President George Bush stuck by his strong support for it.

But Rep. Louise Slaughter, D-N.Y., said the 2008 elections not only put Obama in the White House but also increased the ranks of senators and representatives who share her opposition to funding abstinence education.

“We believe the amount of money that goes into it would be so much better used on things to prevent unwanted pregnancies,” she said. “I think we’ll have enough votes to deal with it.”

Slaughter is a lead sponsor of the Prevention First Act, introduced this month in the House and Senate, that proposes multiple initiatives to reduce unintended pregnancies. One component calls for promoting “medically accurate” comprehensive sex education.

Supporters of abstinence education acknowledge the shift of political power in Washington, but they have appealed to Obama to preserve some federal funding for their programs.

Valerie Huber, executive director of the National Abstinence Education Association, suggested that one option would be for Congress “to allow true choice” by approving funding for both comprehensive and abstinence-focused programs.

Referring to recent data showing increases in teen births and sexually transmitted diseases among young people, she said, “Now is not the time to remove even one of the tools that can help teens.”

However, Slaughter said she would oppose any effort to fund both approaches.

“We can’t have both, because abstinence-only doesn’t work,” she said.

Among the organizations attempting to bridge the ideological divide on sex education is the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.

Its director, Sarah Brown, said the campaign’s approach is “science-driven” — favoring comprehensive sex education over the abstinence programs.

“In a highly constrained fiscal environment, it’s critical to focus precious dollars on programs that have evidence of good effects,” Brown said. “When you look at the best science, the abstinence-only programs come up short.”

Still, she said there could be a long-term benefit to conducting research on whatever abstinence programs do endure.

“I suspect that if research community keeps testing them, there might be a couple that do have an effect,” she said.

Georgia supplements its federal abstinence money with more than $500,000 of state funds.

“Abstinence education will remain a strategy of our youth development initiative regardless of what happens at the federal level,” said Jen Bennecke, executive director of the Governor’s Office for Children and Families.

She credited the Georgia program — which includes character-development curriculum — with contributing to a 50 percent decrease in teen pregnancies since its inception 11 years ago.

Roughly half the states receive federal abstinence funding — the others have spurned the program, under which instructors are directed to teach that sexual activity outside of marriage is likely to have harmful psychological and physical effects.

Supporters of abstinence education say it promotes the only method that’s 100 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. Critics say the abstinence programs don’t deter teens from having sex, leave them without crucial information on avoiding pregnancy and STDs, and in some cases provide false information about condoms’ reliability.

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On the Net:

Abstinence Education Association: http://www.abstinenceassociation.org/

Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy: http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/default.aspx

January 15, 2009

Site Launch!

Center for Positive Sexuality’s website has launched with a new navigation system, forums, and much more! Take a moment and check it out: http://www.positivesexuality.org